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[BOOK REVIEW] Connie Cavanaugh, From Faking it to Finding Grace, 2005

faking-it-finding-graceThe Christian life is one of highs & lows, but thankfully it is not reliant upon our feelings – we have to put our faith and trust in God: that if we have asked him into our lives, he has accepted us.

This is the simplicity of Christian living, which we often over-complicate with further rules, expectations (from self & others), and end up feeling lost and detached from God. Within the Church, it’s very easy to get away with behaving in a certain way: saying the right things, raiding hands at the right time, etc. and everyone thinks you’re truly ‘holy’ … well you are ‘holy’, but most of us do not feel super-spiritual the whole time.

I love the human-ness of Christianity – God takes us as we are. However, this is no excuse to stay as we are. God calls us to move on. Cavanaugh gives some tools to do this when we’re feeling stuck in a rut. She used to cringe when asked the question “So, what’s God been doing in your life lately?”. Out of her own life experience (cringing at the question) she urges us to keep asking, seeking and knocking. Then you will move away from the desert and toward a fresh realisation – deeper and more mature – of friendship with God as he truly is. We have to change our mindsets (p103-4):

The Lifestyle of Surrender

[This is hard work and against our self-centred nature, but as we continually attempt to surrender, our thinking will gradually change:]

  • Wilderness thinking says “Maybe there is no personal God. I haven’t seen or heard from Him in a long time.”
    Surrendered thinking says “I choose to believe in the God I can’t see or hear.”

  • Wilderness thinking says “God can’t love me, because I have wasted so much of my life in this wilderness of unbelief.”
    Surrendered thinking says “I choose to believe that the God who sent His Son to die in my place paid too dear a price to give up on me yet.”

  • Wilderness thinking says “God will hold me accountable for my wasted potential, and I will never be who I could have in Him.”
    Surrendered thinking says “God is the one who ordered my days – perhaps he brought me through this experience in order to prepare me to do something for Him I never would have chosen on my own.”

  • Wilderness thinking says “I am unfit to serve Him”
    Surrendered thinking says “God is in the recycling business, and He will send me out to help and encourage other wanderers, to point them to Christ and give them hope. Broken people love and serve broken people.”

It’s not all about ‘Keeping up appearances’ – don’t drop out, but be honest about where you are.

Prepared for use as as an Oak Hall leader. 

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Dr Bex Lewis is passionate about helping people engage with the digital world in a positive way, where she has more than 20 years’ experience. She is Senior Lecturer in Digital Marketing at Manchester Metropolitan University and Visiting Research Fellow at St John’s College, Durham University, with a particular interest in digital culture, persuasion and attitudinal change, especially how this affects the third sector, including faith organisations, and, after her breast cancer diagnosis in 2017, has started to research social media and cancer. Trained as a mass communications historian, she has written the original history of the poster Keep Calm and Carry On: The Truth Behind the Poster (Imperial War Museum, 2017), drawing upon her PhD research. She is Director of social media consultancy Digital Fingerprint, and author of Raising Children in a Digital Age: Enjoying the Best, Avoiding the Worst  (Lion Hudson, 2014; second edition in process) as well as a number of book chapters, and regularly judges digital awards. She has a strong media presence, with her expertise featured in a wide range of publications and programmes, including national, international and specialist TV, radio and press, and can be found all over social media, typically as @drbexl.

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